On Passing Around Smiles

One of my intentions for 2011 was to continue surrounding myself with a community of individuals that helped bring the best out in me. By the end of 2011, naturally and serendipitously, I was introduced to group of individuals that gets together one Wednesday per month to meditate and discuss a passage.

After my second month of joining this great group of individuals, I sat down with Amit and Birju, the two organizers, to get to know one and other better. What I assumed would be a lighthearted getting to know one and other session, became an a heartfelt discussion with presence.

It felt like a therapy session. I poured my heart and soul into my confusions and challenges with figuring out my next steps with life and they listened and communicated so openly. They felt like long lost elder brothers giving me guidance.

While Amit was leaving, he gave me a bag of these delicious cookies and told me I need to give them out. Later on, Birju provided me with these cards that say “Smile. You’ve just been tagged!” (http://www.helpothers.org/cards.php)

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At around 12:30 AM Thursday morning, I began my expedition to give out cookies to strangers in NYC. I I first offered a cookie to the front desk security guard, he looked in the bag and took the biggest cookie he could find and said thank you. I thought well that’s the biggest cookie in the bag, that’s a bit selfish. Nonetheless, I smiled and was happy to give him a cookie.

Lesson 1: Mind = Autopilot. I noticed my mind is on autopilot! Even when I was trying to give out a bag of cookies, I was judging the receivers! Although, I was happy to give the cookie, I still had expectations: What cookie will they take? A big one? A small one? A couple? How will they respond? With gratitude? Indifference? Skepticism?

I offered another cookie to this woman standing at the desk, she declined by saying “I don’t eat cookies, but thank you.” I smiled and laughed in my head.

Lesson 2: Not Everyone Wants Cookies (Rejection). I had a feeling some people would think it was odd that a random man was giving them cookies. Here were my assumptions of other people: They would think I put ruffis in the cookies. They would think there was a catch. Women would think I was hitting on them. At the end of the day, everyone had a different view of receiving a cookie — no one view was more correct than the other.

Lesson 3: Persistance.  During my cab ride home, I offered the driver a cookie. He declined. I offered again. He declined. I offered again. He declined. I offered again. He accepted and said, “thank you, thank you very much, thank you very much, Sir.” I am not sure why I was so persistent, but I had a feeling he wanted a cookie but was being really kind.

The next morning, I had a bag of at least 15 cookies left. I thought to myself, how am I going to get rid of these cookies. For some reason I started the morning thinking it might be difficult to give away cookies.

I gave one out to a lady picking oranges from the grocery store. She was glowing and excited. I was glowing.

I got to the 1 station at 23rd and 7th, I offered one to the station agent. He started laughing and smiling from ear-to-ear, but he declined. I felt amazing. I had made someone smile and laugh.

I began offering cookies to people on the uptown subway. I got some strange looks, a couple rejections and a couple laughs and smiles. I felt amazing.

I gave some out at an acting studio in midtown. The actors could not have been happier.

Lesson 4: Confidence. Giving away cookies, gave me confidence. Every time I would try to give a cookie, I would be scared of being rejected. But, the interesting thing was that every time I gave a cookie — whether accepted or not — I received something different: a laugh, a feeling of happiness, a sense of friendship with strangers and confidence to give more.

Lesson 5: The more I give, the happier I will be? I think so 😉

(A special thanks to Birju and Amit!)

8 Replies to “On Passing Around Smiles”

  1. Dear Krishan, my brother,

    wonderful reading your piece and be a part of the steps you take in your own personal development. I was reminded of the Bhagavad Gita class back at the ashram “not to be concerned with the fruits of your actions”. Beautiful:-)!

    The other day I came across this piece about the ripple effect your actions have. I hope your kind gesture and smile has rippled through the lifes of many! Enjoy the read:
    http://aflourishinglife.com/2012/01/the-ripple-effect-of-your-grace-full-life/

    Love and light,
    Sharmila

  2. Sharmilla, Thank you so much for your note. Yes, it reminds me greatly of not being concerned with the fruits of our actions! Teacher Training lessons keeping popping up everywhere 🙂 Thank you for the article is so true and resonates:) Hope to see you Amsterdam or the Bahamas sometime! Much love, K

  3. Thanks for sharing this experience Krishan! Birju and Amit have a way of spreading ripples of kindness in the most unexpected ways 🙂 It’s so wonderful to hear about what you experienced in performing all of these small acts of kindness to gift the cookies you had received — what a lovely experiment in spreading some smiles!

  4. Thanks you, Trishna! Yes, Birju and Amit are awesome and defn changed the course of my week, and I have a feeling a bit more. It was a lovely experience.

  5. I loved reading this:). Your shared your thought process so honestly and now I’m inspired to bake cookies and share them during this cold winter season. I just got back from India and reading your blog made me feel like I was back there again…thank you!

  6. Thank you!! I really appreciate you commenting and letting me know that it resonated. Why did it make you feel like you were back in India?? Please do tell!

  7. I really enjoyed reading this inspiring story. It isn’t easy to ponder so deeply about our true motivations, and to share the insights with such honesty. Kudos and thank you for sharing!

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