Notes from Oprah’s Interview of Ram Das

  1. People are not comfortable with silence
  2. “Concepts exist and then they are clothed with words but the clothing closet is not open up.” Ram Das
  3. The stroke is so captivating to the consciousness, but I want to pull my consciousness out and be free of the stroke.
  4. If you stay in the stroke, you keep suffering but if you add in the soul, the witness. Then you can view the stroke from an external point-of-view. Then you can witness and realize that witnessing is not very painful.
  5. Physical pain is a worthy adversary of my spiritual practice.
  6. We each have melodramas and we chop them up and put them in salad bowl for the beloved.

71 Aphorisms for Life and Leadership from my Uncle

1. You can Lead without a Title.
2. Knowing what to do and not doing it is the same as not knowing what to do.
3. Give away what you most wish to receive.
4. The antidote to stagnation is innovation.
5. The conversations you are most resisting are the conversations you most need to be having.
6. Leadership is not about position or image; it is about passion and impact.
7. The bigger the dream, the more important the team.
8. Visionaries see the “impossible” as the inevitable.
9. All great thinkers are initially ridiculed and eventually revered.
10. The more you worry about being applauded by others and making money, the less you’ll focus on doing the great work that will generate applause… and make you money as by-product.
11. To double your net worth, double your self-worth because you will never exceed the height of your self-image.
12. The more messes you allow into your life, the more messes will become a normal (and acceptable) part of your life.
13. The secret to genius is not genetics but daily practice married with relentless perseverance.
14. The best leaders lift people up versus tear people down.
15. Your most precious resource is not your time. It is your energy. Manage it well.
16. The fears you run from run to you.
17. The most dangerous place is in your comfort zone.
18. The more you go to your limits, the more your limits will expand.
19. Every moment in front of a customer is a gorgeous opportunity to live your values.
20. Be so good at what you do that no one else in the world can do what you do.
21. You’ll never go wrong in doing what is right.
22. It generally takes about 10 years to become an “overnight sensation”.
23. Never leave the site of a compelling idea without doing something to execute around it.
24. A strong foundation at home sets you up for a strong foundation at work.
25. Never miss a moment to encourage someone with whom you work.
26. Saying “I’ll try” means “I’m not really committed”.
27. The secret of passion is purpose.
28. Do a few things at mastery versus many things at mediocrity.
29. To have the rewards that very few have, do the things that very few people are willing to do.
30. Go where no one’s gone and leave a trail of excellence behind you.
31. Who you are becoming is more important than what you are accumulating.
32. Accept your teammates for what they are and inspire them to become all they can be.
33. The best leaders are the most dedicated learners. Read great books daily. Investing in your self-development is the best investment you will ever make.
34. Other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.
35. Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle and best at the end.
36. Measure your success by your inner scorecard versus an outer one.
37. Understand the acute difference between the cost of something and the value of something.
38. Nothing fails like success. Because when you are at the top, it’s so easy to stop doing the very things that brought you there.
39. The best leaders blend courage with compassion.
40. The less you are like others, the less others will like you.
41. Excellence in one area is the beginning of excellence in every area.
42. The real reward for doing your best work is not the money you make but the person you become in the process.
43. Passion + production = performance.
44. The value of our goals lives not in reaching them but instead in what the journey towards those goals reveals and who we become as a result.
45. Stand for something. Or else you’ll fall for anything.
46. Say “thank you” when you’re grateful and “sorry” when you’re wrong.
47. Always make the work today’s work product better than yesterday’s work product.
48. Small daily – seemingly insignificant – improvements and innovations lead to staggering achievements over time.
49. Peak performers replace depletion with inspiration on a daily basis.
50. Take care of your relationships and the sales/money will take care of itself.
51. You can’t be great if you don’t feel great. Make exceptional health your #1 priority.
52. Doing the difficult things that you’ve never done awakens the talents you never knew you had.
53. As we express our natural genius, we elevate the world around us.
54. Your daily schedule reflects your deepest values.
55. People do business with people who make them feel special.
56. All things being equal, the primary competitive advantage of your business will be your ability to grow Leaders Without Titles faster than your industry peers can.
57. Treat people well on your way up and they’ll treat you well on your way down.
58. Success lies in mastering a few fundamentals. It really is simple. Not easy. But simple.
59. The business (and person) who tries to be everything to everyone ends up being nothing to anyone.
60. One of the primary tactics for enduring winning is daily learning.
61. To have everything you want, help as many people as you can possibly find get everything they want.
62. Understand that a problem is only a problem if you choose to view it as a problem (vs. an opportunity).
63. Clarity precedes mastery. Craft clear and precise goals/plans/deliverables. And then block out all else.
64. The best in business spend far more time on learning than in leisure.
65. Lucky is where skill meets persistence.
66. The best Leaders Without Titles use their heads and listen to their hearts.
67. The things that are hardest to do are often the best things to do.
68. Every single person in the world could be a genius at something, if she practiced it daily for at least ten years.
69. Daily exercise is an insurance policy against future illness. The best Leaders Without Titles are the fittest.
70. Education is the beginning of transformation. Dedicate yourself to daily learning via books/audios/seminars and coaching.
71. The quickest way to grow the sales of your business is to grow your people.

What do you learn from the Landmark Forum?

Always/Already Listening: Something is always going on in our head. Here is a list of the many thoughts/opinions/judgements that are always going on.
Strong Suits: Three things happen and we base our lives off these stories to survive.
Nothing/Everything: Life is meaningless and there is nothing.
Imagine a bird looking for worms. If the bird does not catch a worm, it doesn’t mean it is going to be depressed and go cry in its nest. No, it will keep looking. By adding the racket to our lives we diminish the possibilities and therefore the actions and the results. For example, the word “God” has meanings based on stories of many religions, but no one can define “God” because if you did define “God” then it would diminish it to a story in YOUR mind. If we define ourselves as “nice”, we diminish our possibilities.
Future/Present/Past: Be Possibility, Do Actions, Have Results –> Start Over. Letting the already/always listening get in the way of the possibilities, the actions and results are simply stories and racket. Chill out. Enjoy.
Fear: Imagine you are afraid of everyone next to you, then everyone in the room, then everyone in the building, then the City you are in, then the Country you are in, then the World. Do the opposite and imagine people are afraid of you. Do the same with other things (e.g., smarts).
Choice/Decision: Choices are without the Already/Always Listening or Thoughts. Decisions are with the Already/Always Listening. For example, I choose vanilla because I did (Choice) vs. I choose vanilla because I like it (Decision).
Integrity: What Happened + Reasons DOES NOT EQUAL = IntegrityWe either do or do not, there is no in between. We either have integrity or we don’t. And remember it is not good or bad — it just is.
Racket: A fixed way of BEING + a persistent complaint (reaction to reality or imagined threat). Every racket has a payoff and cost:
Payoff:
– Right/Wrong
– Dominate/Avoid Domination
– Self-Justify/Invalidate others
– Win/Lose
Cost
– Love/Affinity
– Self-expression
– Vitality
– Well-being